tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post756396300051135597..comments2024-03-28T10:41:26.999-06:00Comments on Blood-Red Pencil: Grieving 101Danihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14471919576687777886noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-10480758131141047482013-10-31T11:15:56.857-06:002013-10-31T11:15:56.857-06:00Oh Maryann this is so lovely. And the fact that yo...Oh Maryann this is so lovely. And the fact that you are pouring your heart out to your horse brought me to tears—I know, it's true, that after a while people just don't want to hear it anymore. <br /><br />I think it's important for us writers to remember there are times to live, and times to record, and times to process. You have taken the time to experience your grief, and recorded it beautifully here. The rest will come, in time.Kathryn Crafthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08371458857187160425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-87749379243732122042013-10-31T07:38:47.245-06:002013-10-31T07:38:47.245-06:00Thank you, Linda. I know I have found courage in t...Thank you, Linda. I know I have found courage in the stories others have shared, so I do hope some find courage from mine. Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-44813526896233576032013-10-31T07:36:54.489-06:002013-10-31T07:36:54.489-06:00Thank you for that affirmation, Dani. "Keepin...Thank you for that affirmation, Dani. "Keeping on" keeps me from the alternative. Some days it is incredibly hard to stay focused and motivated, and it has helped to have so much support. I don't think I could manage without my family and friends.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-36348256051160919822013-10-31T07:34:20.687-06:002013-10-31T07:34:20.687-06:00Thanks so much, Elle.Thanks so much, Elle.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-36561780089771850862013-10-30T23:26:51.383-06:002013-10-30T23:26:51.383-06:00This is so touchingly poignant and so painfully ra...This is so touchingly poignant and so painfully raw at the same time. Thank you for sharing this difficult journey with us — who knows who your words might comfort or whose heart's agony you may ease? You've been in my prayers, too, Maryann.Linda Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16056682992943171805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-22142449025446608752013-10-30T20:03:30.222-06:002013-10-30T20:03:30.222-06:00Maryann, thanks for being so open and brutally hon...Maryann, thanks for being so open and brutally honest with us. I'm amazed at how you've kept on with your chores here and all around the Internet. AND the theater work! You are truly a model for the rest of us, and as someone mentioned above... we'll all take this part of the journey some day. Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14471919576687777886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-16495633873327003772013-10-30T16:59:41.025-06:002013-10-30T16:59:41.025-06:00Much love again, Maryann. You have been in my thou...Much love again, Maryann. You have been in my thoughts, too. xoxElle Carter Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02266309723919011181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-85231854158062124092013-10-30T15:30:14.718-06:002013-10-30T15:30:14.718-06:00Lorelei, you are right that we cannot get around t...Lorelei, you are right that we cannot get around the grief, we have to walk through it. When I was working with grief groups as a chaplain, I remember talking about that, but didn't really have a grasp of what it meant beyond the intellectual concept. But sometimes the grief is like that thick morning fog. It just shrouds everything and you literally have to walk through the fog to find a clear spot.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-42277065511254525192013-10-30T15:27:09.560-06:002013-10-30T15:27:09.560-06:00That is so kind. Thank you. Te support of people l...That is so kind. Thank you. Te support of people like you has helped so much.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-20796478958229023912013-10-30T15:26:19.686-06:002013-10-30T15:26:19.686-06:00Betsy, thank you so much. You are right that it is...Betsy, thank you so much. You are right that it is all about our hearts. Hopefully, soon I will be able to reconnect with mine.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-55970530894520453082013-10-30T13:09:42.796-06:002013-10-30T13:09:42.796-06:00Writing from the heart is so terribly difficult. W...Writing from the heart is so terribly difficult. Writing when the heart is broken seems impossible. If we haven't walked your path, we will someday. Your words are a guidepost of hope and love. Know that you are not alone. Sending love and compassion your way.Betsy Ashtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06871010122475160477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-24609995348458192272013-10-30T12:06:15.929-06:002013-10-30T12:06:15.929-06:00Maryann, you've been in my thoughts and prayer...Maryann, you've been in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for sharing your journey.Heidiwriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02593338979995203659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-2012239398480279252013-10-30T12:02:11.295-06:002013-10-30T12:02:11.295-06:00Grief is one of those human emotions we can't ...Grief is one of those human emotions we can't get around. I know it gets better eventually, and know you will get through this. Thanks for sharing.Lorelei Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03294047277447613989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-24686880189812295752013-10-30T11:44:36.965-06:002013-10-30T11:44:36.965-06:00:-):-)Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-3788691029420944572013-10-30T11:43:59.149-06:002013-10-30T11:43:59.149-06:00You are right, Diana. I am doing a grief journal. ...You are right, Diana. I am doing a grief journal. It is a good thing even if I only write a few words some days.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-63559276300333189722013-10-30T11:42:16.845-06:002013-10-30T11:42:16.845-06:00Alicia, it does help. There is an axiom in the cou...Alicia, it does help. There is an axiom in the counseling and chaplaincy business that the grieving person does need to tell his or her story for a long time. it was therapeutic to write this post. I think I will do one next month addressing going through the holidays for the first time without that special person.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-75697633053234454232013-10-30T11:39:56.685-06:002013-10-30T11:39:56.685-06:00Something went wonky with my iPad keyboard when I ...Something went wonky with my iPad keyboard when I tried to write more. Wanted to say that my son sent me a link to a song "Put One Foot in Front of the Other." It's a cute song, and if I was working with my main computer I could share the link. I am not up on the iPad technology to know how to leave this spot, go find a link, and post it. :-(Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-5506936658616364172013-10-30T11:39:52.336-06:002013-10-30T11:39:52.336-06:00<3 sniff.<3 sniff.Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14471919576687777886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-82890656272242321622013-10-30T11:36:45.235-06:002013-10-30T11:36:45.235-06:00Thanks, Pat.Thanks, Pat.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-51551887255913389472013-10-30T11:35:33.463-06:002013-10-30T11:35:33.463-06:00Thanks so much!!!Thanks so much!!!Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-9505088457434979832013-10-30T10:20:06.685-06:002013-10-30T10:20:06.685-06:00{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-3027277952462616972013-10-30T09:11:40.057-06:002013-10-30T09:11:40.057-06:00It's such a tough time, Maryann, and I think o...It's such a tough time, Maryann, and I think of you often and wonder how you're doing. It's the old "one day at time" thing that gets us through. Warm virtual hugs coming your way.Patricia Stolteyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192369425956406122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-53442940887682825712013-10-30T08:38:39.606-06:002013-10-30T08:38:39.606-06:00Thank you for sharing your strength. None of us wi...Thank you for sharing your strength. None of us will escape loss, and it really helps to have those who have gone before in the loss of a spouse tell it like it is. I hope the telling is also healing for you.<br /><br />AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-81098479958649593272013-10-30T08:23:53.099-06:002013-10-30T08:23:53.099-06:00Firstly, condolences for your terrible loss. Secon...Firstly, condolences for your terrible loss. Secondly, feel everything for as long as you need to. You're not only allowed to, it is necessary for healing. Thirdly, write it out - everything, the fear, the anger, the loneliness, whatever your truth is. Writing down the truth heals. As women, too often we think we have to smile and be strong for everyone. You don't have to be strong for the page. The page can take everything you have to say to it.Diana Hurwitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18216220574149672733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5704943052235281766.post-53720886288539338782013-10-30T07:24:22.227-06:002013-10-30T07:24:22.227-06:00Thanks for stopping by, Fiona, and you are right o...Thanks for stopping by, Fiona, and you are right on both counts. :-)Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.com